Comments on: Finding My Style And Myself Again

By: Lynn

Lynn — Thu, 16 Jun 2022 01:15:14 +0000

I just came across this while I was trying to find your new Birkenstocks that my toes constantly hang over the top lip. Anyway it strongly hit me hard and resonated with me in a very different way. I’m older now and although the number is quite correct , I see the younger me in cutoffs and sandals going to live concerts . I miss that me and I too understand that I don’t want that life back that I had out with my friends until the wee hours and still lonely for a home life with a reliable nice partner. I understand what you said completely going from my life married and then single and figuring out just where I belonged and who I was . I’m still me, a bit wiser and a lot older but I’ve found myself along my journey xoxo

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Fri, 11 Mar 2022 18:50:23 +0000

100% this.

I had a baby this past summer and being pregnant plus a pandemic (with not leaving the house for a job, for dinner out, for parties at friends, for even grocery shopping) and now my slightly different postpartum body has led to me living almost exclusively in leggings and sweats, with oversized sweaters being my “chic” item. I had a tent dress moment (bought 5) at the peak of pregnancy last summer, but I have no idea what I will want to wear or what I will feel good in this summer. I am not sure “who I am” fashion-wise right now. Am I a ripped jeans and tees mom? Am I a flowy dress mom? I am currently a leggins and sweats mom, but in my mind I am going to wear more “real” clothes once we emerge from the pandemic a bit more.

Trying to embrace the evolution and experimentation that will likely be the next few years as I settle into my new role, my body, and post-pandemic life where I venture out of my house and into society.

Thanks, Jess. I love your blog.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 11 Mar 2022 00:40:51 +0000

Hello Jess,

I think your story resonates with many of us mothers. Having a baby undoubtedly comes with significant change, good and bad. I like to think of it like metamorphosis. At first, you feel like your whole world flopped over, literally overnight, and your former self/freedom/friends/identity etc. are in the rearview mirror. It took me a long time to start feeling as though I had some freedom— everything in my life was tailored to my kids, now ages 9 (twins) and 6. I was 30 pounds heavier, didn’t want to wear flattering clothes, and my house was packed with everything for underdeveloped little humans. I rarely went to restaurants anymore, and forget shopping, concerts, or other places with a lot of activity. Although my kids are my world, it wasn’t until last year when began to have some independence (or separateness) again. I want to thank you for you blog. It was one of the catalysts that helped me redefine my style, start redoing my home, hanging out with friends (of course with their kids, too), and partake in activities I personally enjoy without feeling too guilty. I feel more confident than ever, even before having children. Plus, I have a family as my foundation. Everything will evolve for you, and things will continue to change for you as your daughter gets older. You will find your stride in each stage but, beware, it goes fast! 🙂

By: Taylor

Taylor — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 21:31:15 +0000

I am a new mom of two months…this was refreshing to hear, to hear that it is normal to look and feel different. And thank you for normalizing the “not looking the same.” Because some people can’t “bounce back” after baby. It is hard to put away my skinny high rise Madewell jeans but really I’d rather look ahead than backwards…and I give myself permission to buy the next size up rather than lament my old body. It’s SO hard to do, but just reading this post and its comments is very reassuring. Power to all the other mamas reading this post and feeling the same!

By: Veronica

Veronica — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 20:13:14 +0000

I relate to this so much post-pandemic and postpartum! Loved this.

Relatedly, I’ve been loving your content lately. Feels so authentic and relatable. Thank you.

By: Andrea H

Andrea H — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 20:02:53 +0000

I think we are in the midst of a pretty radical sartorial shift, which has impacted how I see my style/get dressed too. The pandemic threw everyone into loungewear, and the next iteration of that seems to be comfort + style forward items like loose trousers, oversized silhouettes, etc. Add in changing denim styles and it almost feels overwhelming! The learning curve is definitely greater right now, but hopefully not for too long.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 19:38:45 +0000

In reply to Sarah @ Fewer & Better.

It so nice when find those pieces that make you feel good. Such an incredible feeling. I love having a wardrobe that’s easy but also makes me happy. Finally feeling ready to start figuring that out again.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 19:37:21 +0000

In reply to Naila.

Yes absolutely relate to this. Those tiny snippets of normalcy and connection are so amazing. I think is a discovery period for so many of us right now.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 19:36:04 +0000

In reply to Erica.

Ugh man I feel this. Kelley and I were just talking about these dark days of winter that really start to take a toll. I think we are all really ready for some sun and sand.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 19:35:30 +0000

In reply to Lindsay.

Totally relate to this Lindsay. I had to figure out who I was and what my style would look like when I left my corporate job. There have been so many evolutions of personal style in my life but more recently I’ve been in a rut with feeling good in what I wear and also just getting excited about getting dressed. Nice to know I’m not along on that one.